Why Do I Keep Attracting Losers into My Life?

“Why do I keep attracting losers?”

I should have asked this question a long time back. But I didn’t, because I assumed it was just a coincidence and things will improve with time.

Well, guess what? They never did.

But I kept living under the impression that:

  • I could be a winner by repeating “I am a winner” zillion times a day.
  • The mind could be forced to believe in good fortune to attract positive people and circumstances.
  • Willpower could help me overcome the negative thought patterns and behavioural conditioning.

I tried self-hypnosis, affirmations, and also subliminal recordings. I mean, I tried almost every goddamn thing under the sun, but the losers didn’t go away.

Still, I didn’t lose hope.

Though I was venturing into never-ending darkness, I thought it was just a matter of time.

Something radical happened this morning: My whole world came crashing down around me when I realised what a fool I had been.

The fact is that attracting losers and jerks into one’s life is rarely a matter of coincidence.

What is it then? Why do you keep attracting unsuccessful and harmful people into your life?


How to Increase Willpower

Most of us assume that fate chains us. People say that a man is not free to act.

By the way, are they wrong? Not quite.

A person who believes that there’s no higher power, will not seek it (because it does not exist for him). And you cannot find something that you don’t explore.

But if you do try, you’ll get it – sooner or later.

If you feel there is a power within our grasp – a reservoir of strength that can make things happen, then you can make it work for you – with your ‘will.’ That’s why it’s called willpower.

Increase Willpower. Here’s How


Hard Work is the Core of Success

Hard work is one of the most important aspects of personal growth.

And what better day to talk about working hard than “Labor Day” which is today – the 1st of May?

Contemplate over these lines, explaining the importance of labour.

उद्यमेन हि सिध्यन्ति कार्याणि न मनोरथैः ।
न हि सुप्तस्य सिंहस्य प्रविशन्ति मुखे मृगाः ।।

Udyamein hi siddhyanti karyani na manoratheh, Nahi suptasya sinhasya pravishanti mukhe mrighah

“Effort accomplishes work; it does not get accomplished merely by wishing. The animals don’t enter a sleeping lion’s mouth.”

When you try making a career in your chosen field; planning, predicting possible outcomes, and having a positive attitude – it all matters. But what matters more is the willpower to work hard.

The process of working towards your goals, moving past setbacks, and then finally tasting the fruits of your sweat is as relevant today as it has been in the past.

There’s no substitute for hard work. No matter how many people sing praises for “shortcuts”; hard work is still the core of success, and will always be.

An Inspiring Real Life Story About Hard Work

Just the other day, a friend narrated me an inspiring story.

It was about a man who had lost everything but didn’t give up.

He worked tirelessly, bounced back and made his life meaningful again. I am sharing the story with you. (I have changed the names of people and places to protect identities).


How to Build Concentration With Tratak

Tratak is an ancient Indian yogic method to build concentration.

Many people think it is some sort of meditation, but that’s not true.

Tratak is simply a technique to build concentration.

And remember:

Concentration is not meditation.

You see, when you are concentrating, you are fixing your awareness on one particular point only. Remember the incident in ‘Mahabharat’ when Arjun said to Guru Dronacharaya that he could saw the eye of the bird and nothing else?

That’s concentration.

So, What’s Meditation Then?