Meditation is Not for Everyone!

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I hate to say it, but meditation is not for everyone. Hell, it might not be for you.

You believe meditation is easy, and everybody should do it, because that’s what you’ve heard, right?

But that’s a half-truth, and you have a right to know what’s going on.

But since nobody has done it so far, I’ll have to do the dirty work. Even if you hate me for it.

I can’t help it. I must give you the complete truth — no hype, no bullshit!

So, let me give you something to chew on:

Meditation can be harmful, yes, that’s true, if you don’t know what you’re doing. So, before you try another session of “mindfulness” or what do they call it” – umm…yeah, “living in the present”, read on, and then decide if you’re going to walk down the unknown and highly dangerous path of spirituality.

Okay, so can we talk about sunglasses to set the context?

Let’s do it.

You see, sunglasses are useful.

They help you see the world with clarity when the lenses are sparkling clean.

But foreign particles on the lenses can block your vision  – you start believing that something is wrong with the world – why the heck it is so dirty and flimsy? Why the people around me look ugly?

Tell me what you would do in such a situation?

Would you start wiping people’s faces?

Or would you clean the lenses?

You know the answer.

You see, your mind is also like a pair of eyeglasses – it lets you enjoy the companionship of your family members, friends, relatives, and the people in general.

But once the dust of repressed emotions accumulates over it, things go south. Now, you start thinking that there’s something wrong with the world, while in reality, you are (unconsciously)  projecting your unexpressed emotions on the people – and that creates frustration and agony.

That’s what happened to me.

I won’t say I was solely responsible for collecting filth of negative emotions – rage, anger, frustration, depression, and fear because some other factors were also at play.

Meditation: How & Why I Started Meditating

I was born in a middle-class family with somewhat limited resources, which went on decreasing with time. Circumstances and people were unfavourable. Things were horrible since my childhood till I touched adolescence and even young age.

To cut the story short, I was fucked.

During my journey of misery and suffering of about 20 years, my mind got affected negatively. It did not get the attention and love it deserved. My body too was in bad shape – I was skinny, frail and prone to general illnesses.

The pressure on my mind was so overwhelming that I went into depression. I contacted a physician, and he explained it could happen to anybody living in an unfriendly, uncaring atmosphere. Well, I was a perfect fit.

I rarely had an opportunity to express my feelings and emotions, and could not speak to any friend or confidante about the pain and suffering.

Talking to my parents was not possible either because they were in bad shape, and I did not want to add to their already unbearable burden by telling them about my agony.

So, I didn’t speak.

And that cost me.

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The steam and pressure inside keep rising – until it explodes and kills itself.

It could have happened to me. I was almost on the verge of ending my life, but then things changed.

The Universe introduced me to Meditation.

It was not that I wasn’t aware of it, but I had never taken it sincerely before. But now, it was the question of life and death. I had to do something, and so I started experimenting with intensive meditation techniques.

Things started improving.

The truth is that I am alive because of meditation.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that meditation work for everyone. Instead, it can cause adverse effects if you’re not careful.

Can You Meditate?

Yes. But the question is, should you?

What if meditation is not for you? What then?

Some ‘Meditation Experts’ and ‘Mindfulness Gurus’ claim that meditation works for everyone. Such people even suggest that meditation is the perfect remedy for stress, depression, anxiety, lack of sense of direction, etc. Meditate for 10 minutes in the morning, and you are all set.

Well, the bad news is: (Actually there are two).

Meditation is not easy.

And,

It is not a quick fix.

So, If you are planning to venture into the dark corners of your mind by meditating, then you must be ready to face whatever comes your way.

Let me warn you – meditation is the process of opening a can full of worms. You should explore the deeper layers of your mind only if, and when, you’re ready to face the devils residing inside.

Am I not saying something that goes against the widespread belief? If you want to stay happy and calm, you should meditate daily for 10 to 20 minutes?

Yes, that’s exactly what I am doing.

Let me explain.

Your Mind is Like a Storeroom

A typical household has three kinds of rooms – a living room, bedroom, and others.

Ever noticed the difference between your bedroom and drawing room?

You keep the drawing room in good shape. The sofas should be clean, and the table should sparkle, the curtains must be free of dust, the marble floor should stay neat and tidy.

Why?

Because this is the room for guests, and you want to make a reasonably fair impression on the people visiting you.

On the other hand, guests rarely enter the bedroom so it can stay a little shabby, and what the hell, even a little dirt on the floor won’t hurt, right?

And then we have the storeroom. We neglect it, even hate it, and not to mention that we don’t really care about it.

A storeroom is a perfect place to hide things you don’t want others to see. It’s usually full of junk and discarded items all year round except the festive season. Deepawali, to be precise.

When Deepawali is around the corner, you give the storeroom a thorough cleaning.

Cleaning the Junk Can Be Uncomfortable

Can you recall the uninviting sight it presents, and how hard it is to breathe when you enter through that door?

You feel like puking. Your head starts spinning, and you wonder where to start.

Well, guess what, your mind is also like a storeroom. Whatever you did not want others (or yourself) to see, you throw in the dark.

You want people to see your smile, so that’s what you show them.

And the sadness, the depression, the frustration, the tears – what about them?

Well, since you don’t want people to see your ugly side, you can always dump them in the storeroom of your mind because it’s readily available.

So, your repressed emotions are waiting for you to release them –  for years, or maybe lives.

Don’t fall into the trap of the so-called ‘Meditation Teachers’ who advises that everybody should meditate. Such morons know nothing about the human mind and how things work.

Can You Breathe for 10 Minutes and Go About Your Day?

I would be crazy if I asked you to breathe for only 10 minutes a day, right? I mean, can you breathe for a couple of minutes every morning and then forget about it?

No. You need to keep breathing 24 hours days, even when you’re asleep.

And that’s the loophole in the ‘expert theory’ that meditating for 10 minutes a day is sufficient. No. It’s not.

Meditation is not an act that you can ‘do’, but instead it’s a state of being.

Meditation and Its Consequences

Just the other day I met an old classmate who complained that I ruined his life.

“What the fuck? How did I ruin your life?”

“You should not have told me about meditation. I could not focus on making a career, and I have no direction in life.”

It’s a classic example of blaming others for one’s misfortune when one doesn’t dare to admit their mistake. This guy had undertaken meditation way too seriously, too early in his life.

Yes, I introduced him to meditation, but did I put a gun on his head to do that? Certainly not.

He attended a lot of meditation camps and then left it halfway.

When you leave something incomplete and drop it just like that, there will be consequences. So, be clear why you want to get into meditation. And also if you have the guts to complete it.

Meditation, and life, in general, is your responsibility. It’s up to you to take or not take the risk.

So, let me repeat:

Meditation is Not for Everyone

You will have to pass through hell before you can get even a glimpse of heaven.

Only courageous (and a little crazy) people willing to put everything at risk should consider going into deep meditation.

If you’re not one such person, don’t bother.

Because once you’re in, there’s no turning back!

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Avdhesh Tondak is a motivational speaker, blogger, and voice actor. He shares personal development insights with young people. Also, he helps college students and young professionals gain confidence, and feel comfortable in their skin. Subscribe to receive his new articles by email